Parsing my Own Details and Tips To Help You Find Yours
I am aware that I am blitzing my blog with this Style ID topic at the moment. There are a few reasons for that, some of them personal and connected to health. The other reason is that I want to be able to offer what I have learned in how to work it out and use it, in case I have convinced anyone to try it after reading my blog.
Many self-assessment tools are only as good as your ability to self assess. They involve a great deal of subjectivity I like a system where I am free to explore and work it out for myself but there are clear supports and organisational methods that make this easier. The frustration can be that it's not a foolproof system if that is what is wanted. You can read about my personal discoveries here or scroll though to find the headings that indicate tips for your own use.
I Know What Really Doesn't Work for MeCertain styles and trends never worked very well for me. Some of these things were so bad I never bought them although they were trendy or although I liked them in theory, but most of the others I did try, sometimes repeatedly though generally unsuccessfully. You will notice many of them feature visual or literal heaviness.
- button up shirts or button down shirts-man tailored collars near my face just don't work well.
- blanket scarves
- large floppy hats
- jaunty caps
- statement necklaces
- plain, straight skirts-short are even worse than long
- jackets-blazer, denim or leather
- v necklines (okay in some cases)
- plunging necklines
- turtlenecks/polo necks
- thick ponchos
- masculine style boots
- heavy, substantial waterfall cardigans
- heavy belts
- hardware-buckles, large clasps, studs, grommets, visible zippers
- thickly textured sweaters
- skinny ribbed knits
- geometric patterns and obvious straight lines
- thick, chunky sandals
- capri pants and shorts (very long capris that are not skinny/tight are okay but difficult to find)
- cargo pants
- stiff, thick and heavy fabric
- clothing with no movement
- outdoorsy clothing in general
Some of these things are unavoidable at times. Most of us must sometimes adapt to situation-specific wardrobes that are outside our ideal look.
Here is something anyone can do, using Pinterest, to test a certain look.
Make a secret Pinterest board and put some photos of your face on it. Use photos that are straight-on views, even if that isn't your most flattering angle. Straight on gives an accurate image of the proportions, lines, angles or curves of our faces. Save images to this board in small groups or even singly. This way the images are viewed right next to the picture(s) of your face. This gives a pretty quick indicator and you will probably get a gut feeling about it. Delete the images you reject and save the good ones to a different Pinterest board.
It is really helpful to use images that have been organised and identified by style consultants, rather than try to guess on your own if something is Romantic or Dramatic etc. There is some subjectivity to that but also some degree of it is based on repeating in clothing the lines that are in the face. It's not always easy to identify those lines so it can work just to go with the 'this looks right' feeling and then keep refining it.
I have used this strategy to refine my understanding of why I chose the boards I did when using the style ID calculator and to further work on it to get to a place I think really works.
More About Me
Here is a Breakdown of what I see in myself or in what works on me. There may be more I am not seeing. Some may argue that I am seeing wrongly or that they see something else. That goes for any style choices we make.
- elongation in body and face, ovals and S curves
- something that suggests a regal or noble aura
- non-sexy femininity
- antique-looking detail is really good
- detail like embroidery, lace and draping are really good
- presence combined with some delicacy, best served by flowing lines, elongated draping
- repeating the elongation of me in my clothing works well
- Old world looks suit me (this is ethereal because it suggests agelessness)
- abstract, blended patterns look good on me
- some youthfulness in appearance-when hair off face high forehead and proportionately smaller/pointier chin is more noticeable
- I look slightly young for my age and have done so in all adulthood
- Some degree of non-sexy femininity which suits daintiness in accessories and detail
- tend to look better with less makeup or no makeup
- can look like child playing dress up or somehow weak in strong style lines
- flattered by short softly flared skirts despite height
- sometimes suit peter pan collars and puffed sleeves without looking silly
- look like myself in upward gaze with innocent overtone
- seem able to wear some cute, small florals or dots
- some degree of roundness in facial features though less noticeable-rounded edges look soft
- thick, soft, wavy hair-basically an estrogen signifier
- look good in soft ruffles, lacy things or delicate detail
- rich colours are romantic- my personal colouring is on the rich side of soft and warm
- possibly makes me appear womanly enough that Ingenue is tempered
- draped lines, some waist focus though not cinched is good
- this type has a friendly face suited to a beaming grin- I don't think a beaming ear to ear grin is my most flattering look but I have a friendly smile
- Some of the lines in both Dramatic Natural and softened Natural types are similar to Ethereal and so they seem to suit me but the details of the Natural types get too heavy for my face.
- Much of the Sarah Pacini stuff I am drawn to is Ethereal Natural-yay!-not that I have the ability to purchase it.
- most natural patterns aren't great though softened paisley is good (relating to S curves perhaps)
- possibly there is balance within my elongated facial features that could add a touch of classic.
- many classic lines don't look bad with my face but aspects of classic don't work as they are too plain or sharp
- my body is very balanced which makes classic clothing look somewhat right
- Classic can read as a bit refined and regal, which is an aspect of Ethereal that seems to suit me as well
Dramatic and Gamine
- the least effective though okay if blended with other essences
- generally there are too many lines and angles and the clothing doesn't make a connection to my face.
- Dramatic-too strong
- Gamine-too choppy; some people see some degree of Gamine cuteness in me and like pixie cuts on me
- when clothing gets too sharp or bold I look weak or diminished
I'm Too Sexy for my Shirt...Or Not
You may have noticed I referred to non-sexy femininity more than once. I have never aimed for a sexy look when getting dressed. It doesn't particularly work on me and I am not bothered by that. The stereo-typically sexy look isn't actually the only way to be sexually appealing. However, I now understand better why I couldn't perform a come hither look if my life depended on it and the hairstyle and dress one would expect to accompany such a face don't work on me.
This is a complex area to navigate. People have strong feelings about femininity and sexuality. There are different ways to express sexuality and different people are attracted to different things. Expressing some Ingenue in your appearance does not mean styling yourself as Lolita nor that you will attract pedophiles.